Help to be better.

I am here to support your self integration and alignment of your goals with your life context, your communities, our world.

Your life can flourish. No hurdle is too large. I can help you with working through fear, moving out of stagnation, living with grief, building fulfilling relationships, and existing in your present moment.

As a trauma- and somatically-informed life coach I bring powerful skills to scaffold your changes. As a Daoist priest I bring additional potent skills and am also myself the medicine that will give you the energy and space you may need to begin a process of self-transformation.

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We spend too little time intentionally shaping our lives. There is no need to wait until we are faced with a crisis.

Change is best made in small and easy steps: "Take on difficulties while they are still easy, do great things while they are still small." (Chapter 63, Dao De Jing, Tr: Jonathan Star). Whether you are in a good place and therefore free to focus on small adjustments or have had a crisis that resets your life to a clean slate, I firmly believe that energy underlying this world fundamentally supports growth. Let me help you find your connection to that energy.

Life is a relational process and we are able to embody our truest selves when we are able to be present to it.

BUILDING FULFILLING RELATIONSHIPS

We are relationships.  We relate to ourselves.  We relate to our physical and spiritual worlds.  We relate to our families, birth and created. We relate to our communities.  We relate to our friends, colleagues, and acquaintances.  We relate to our lovers.  We exist as the nexus of all of these relationships.

I offer multiple forms of relating that can help you with your other relationships.

I find that my coaching, spiritual guidance, and education relationships are usually the meaningfully helpful ones here.  I have no relative expertise on your relationships to use to advise you and I cannot advocate for you in your relationships.

As a coach, I can, however, help you think through and intentionally build your relationships.

As a Daoist priest, I can provide you with various religious healing services, help you improve your energy with yourself and others, and guide your cultivation of the relationships that matter to you.

As an educator, I can help you develop and follow a curriculum around various aspects of relating, including parenting, better romantic relationships, sex, sexuality, and bodies.  I can also help you build your relationship to your own body through various somatic modalities.

PRESENCE

What does this moment have to offer?

Structures striating our society and daily life often make it difficult to experience this moment.

For better or worse, this has been occurring for millennia now. Those paying attention have created a number of technologies that can help us come back to the present.

Belonging, still and clear, in this present moment is foundational to all that I do.

To help you presence yourself through:

  • meditative practices,

  • apophatic techniques, and

  • various somatic tools.

Though much of what I have to offer here is Daoist in origin, there are other specific practices we can explore as well.

WORKING THROUGH IMPEDIMENTS TO PRESENCE

A number of life experiences can impede us from being present. Our emotions project us into the past and future and out of our present.

Fear can be - but does not need to be - debilitating. Fear need not hold us back. Together we can conquer anything.

Perhaps confusingly, stagnation can disconnect us from the present moment too because life moves, it does not stop.

Grief can also get us stuck outside of the present.

Together we can learn to live with each of these emotional states and bring vitality and flow back to your life through:

  • values and goal coordination,

  • exploring areas of growth and creativity,

  • insight practices,

  • guided journaling,

  • meditation,

  • visualization, and

  • various embodiment and somatic techniques.

I can also offer you Daoist spiritual support in each of these areas.

PARTICULAR LIVED EXPERIENCES AND EXPERTISE:

I can be especially helpful and, where appropriate and desired, offer advice in each of the following areas:

  • Feeling like you are not doing enough for your community or the world;

  • Divorce;

  • Polyamory;

  • Coming out;

  • Parenting queer and trans kids;

  • Work-life "balance";

  • Finding or building a community as an adult;

  • Parsing your desires from those imposed on you by your environment and conditioning;

  • Making those desires and fantasies come to life;

  • Adding more adventure to your life.

Be better.

CONFIDENTIALITY

I offer full confidentiality, including, where appropriate, the attorney-client privilege and the priest-penitent privileges. These mean that, absent an exception, I cannot be compelled to divulge your secrets, not even in court.